Does Body Shaming Help?
It pains me to see body shaming.
It pains me to hear body shaming.
It pains me to know how many unknowingly shame themselves.
It pains me because I wasted years shaming myself.
Our beliefs are tricky little suckers.
They are like the tide....they shift before your very eyes and before you know it they are rolling waves crashing on your worth.
These beliefs were formed very early on, and over time gained momentum.
Momentum in a form of identity.
Who was I/You before adopting the belief of being fat, ugly, unworthy, not good enough or undeserving of acceptance? Of love without conditions? Of feeling beautiful, strong, or even confident to do whatever I/You wanted.
Why do I preface it I/You because I know I'm not the only one who has struggled with body shaming. Or body loathing.
I know I'm not the only one who has held myself back from playing my life full out because of how I looked in my body.
I also know how shallow it may seem to think that "looking" a certain way would make such an impact on any area of your life, and yet is it any wonder the diet industry is a $71 billion a year industry.
Is it any wonder the fitness industry is an exceeding $96 billion a year money making machine?
How much of these two industries alone are building your body positivity?
I can remember spending countless years and money going after one eating plan or another only to stack on more guilt and shame of not being "good enough". Leaving me feeling as if there was something wrong with me.
Having bariatric specialists even say that they wanted to donate my body to science because they couldn't understand why my weight never changed even with specialized monitoring.
I'm thankful I love exercising, and yet no matter what I did "exercise-wise", I was never able to look in the mirror and say, "Damn girl, you look hot".
Now don't get me wrong, I know that's not everyone's aspirations, and yet with the amount of body shaming I see or hear of, in just everyday conversation, it's astounding.
Finally breaking free from the cage I held myself in for so long, I discovered so much. And it would be selfish of me not to share with you how to get out of it.
Remember beliefs are tricky little suckers.
Some of the things I learned were;
Beliefs unknowingly build a strong fortress around your vision.
Beliefs seem so insignificant and yet they hold such a strong hold over you and your life.
Beliefs define your identity.
Who are you without your identity?
When you spend so much time, effort, and energy creating your identity, it's hard to imagine who you'd be without it.
I know, I know it seems so plain as the nose on your face that if you don't like the way you look or feel in your skin then you just do something about it.
And yet, if that were true, body shaming wouldn't have the stronghold it does on so many people.
This is why I've decided to take all I've learned over the years and help others learn to weed through these beliefs and set themselves free from their distorted cage.
You can feel amazing in your skin.
You can be, do, and have whatever you want out of your life regardless of how your body looks.
You can be safe to feel beautiful, sexy, sensual, and desirable in your body.
You can model healthy body imaging for your children and generations to come.
I'd love to be able to support you along the way, and here's how https://bit.ly/2MoanQi.
Until next time, please know I send you so much love.